Unfulfilled expectations damage relationships. This is a fundamental truth. So as a law enforcement officer entering into a contact with a citizen, you must understand that they have certain expectations about who you are and how you will perform as a police officer. Unfortunately, the citizen’s expectations may be very unrealistic. Therefore, it is up to you to ground their expectations in reality by first telling them what you are going to do, then doing it. It sounds overly simplistic, but it is a powerful principle that we often overlook. Plus we have a word to describe people who do what they say they are going to do. We say they have a lot of integrity, which is the first essential ingredient for building trust and generating public support.
Once you have established control over their expectations, it is up to you to very methodically meet those expectations. Then go one step further and exceed those expectations. I call this a WOW experience. WOW experiences translate into public support. However, if you fail to meet their expectations, that is an OW experience! And those hurt. They siphon trust out of the relationship.
So my challenge to law enforcement officers all over the world when I conduct Police Dynamics training is to avoid giving anyone an OW experience. But try to give someone at least one WOW experience everyday. In that way you will exponentially begin to build public support and confidence in your agency and the law enforcement profession in general.
Many thanks to Perry Piper for serving as my videographer while I was at Lake Tahoe to record this police training video.
I paused during a recent hiking trip at Lake Tahoe to record this video on the definition of the word Sincerity.
Character First defines Sincerity as eagerly doing what is right with transparent motives. Lake Tahoe has some of the purest water on the face of the earth, up to 99.994% pure and totally transparent. Although the etymology of the word sincerity is disputed, one legend it that it comes from two Latin words – sine and cere – which mean “without wax.”
As the story goes, the Greeks made the best pottery in the land. In an attempt to mimic their success, certain Roman potters copied the Greeks but had inferior materials and/or craftsmanship. Consequently, their pots would come out of the kiln with cracks. Some unscrupulous potters would coat their pots with wax, filling in the cracks, then paint the exterior so you could not see the defects. Then some unsuspecting customer would purchase the pot. But when they “popped it in the microwave” to heat some food, the wax would melt and the cracks would become obvious.
Certain Roman potters, however, became quite skilled at their craft, making pots free of cracks. So they would post a sign in the marketplace that said, “For Sale – Sine Cere Pots,” pots without wax. So the word sincerity became associated with a mark of quality.
In the same way, if there are defects in our character, they tend to manifest themselves when we are under pressure. A sincere person has a transparency of motives. There is no hidden agenda. In the words of Flip Wilson, “What you see is what you get!” That’s the essence of sincerity.
So, the next time you sign a letter or email with the word “Sincerely,” pause to reflect on what it means.
Sheriff Ray Nash
Police Dynamics Institute
I know, I know… It’s been over 9 months since I last posted a Police Dynamics video. Forgive me for being preoccupied with my new business at Focal Point Investigations. However, a recent Police Dynamics seminar for the SC Litter Control Association in Myrtle Beach has revitalized my commitment to training in the character-based principles of Police Dynamics. I want to get back in the swing of things by posting some new videos and letting my subscribers and viewers know that I am available for live Police Dynamics training if your agency is interested.
In the meantime, enjoy this training video on Boldness and the victory at Fort Moultrie…
Outgunned 10 to 1, the brave Patriots at Fort Moultrie on Sullivan’s Island, SC made a bold stand in 1776 against seemingly insurmountable odds. As police officers and government leaders, we can learn a valuable lesson about the importance of having the moral courage to stand for what is true, right, just, and constitutional…
Many thanks to my videographer and partner from Afghanistan, Gary Curry, for his assistance in producing this law enforcement training video.
I have been remiss in keeping the Police Dynamics website updated largely due to the new private investigative business that I recently founded, Focal Point Investigations. And I am going to renege again by once again deferring to my friend and colleague Lloyd Thomas for this latest post. His comments are always insightful, thought-provoking, and consistent with the character-based message of Police Dynamics. I hope you enjoy…
CREATE THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS By Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D.
In last week’s column, I wrote about the process of transforming your life. I received many responses that essentially complained that the column was too “complicated” or “too abstract.” So today, I write about some practical steps you can take to engage in that “transformational process” more easily. Here are some of the practical principles for creating the life of your dreams.
1. Consciously choose what you really want. Dream boldly and positively. With photographic clarity, imagine your life the way you want it to be. Trust your own ability to create the life you desire.
2. Always tell the truth. Directly and candidly speak and write only what you believe to be true. Be honest with yourself. Seek the truth about yourself, others and the world. Make certain that what you speak is borne out in how you act.
3. Focus on becoming a Lover in Life. (more…)
A friend and colleague of mine from Colorado, Dr. Lloyd Thomas, is a licensed psychologist, accomplished author, and life coach. He recently posted an article on Effective Family Leadership. The principles are so consistent with Police Dynamics and other principles of organizational leadership that I asked him for permission to include them on the Police Dynamics site, which he graciously granted. Since it is the day after Father’s Day, I thought it was particularly appropriate to post this new video today…
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Here is the complete text of Dr. Thomas’ article:
EFFECTIVE FAMILY LEADERSHIP
By Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D.
Whether you like it or not, when you become a parent you become the leader of your family. Children learn by observation and imitation. Parents are the “models” that children first observe and begin to imitate. You need to engage in the behavior you want your children to imitate and learn. As a parent, you become your children’s primary leader. It is a powerful and often difficult responsibility.
Most of us never learned the skills of effective leadership. In our culture, we have been regularly exposed to the notion that we should become “child-centered” or that “children should always come first.” If we make children the leaders of our families, our family structure will disintegrate. As parents, it is not our job to imitate our children. It is not our job to behave like children. It is not our job to be our children’s “best friend.” It is not our job to adapt to their behavior…it is their job to adapt to ours.
As parents, we need to become fully responsible leaders…responsible first for our own health and well being. Otherwise, we offer less than healthy leadership to our children. Teaching our children leadership and self-responsibility is only accomplished by becoming the best example of leadership and self-responsibility ourselves.
Here are ten time-honored principles of effective leadership. To become your children’s best leader, learn and practice these principles.
1. Your children are sometimes illogical, unreasonable, self-centered, disobedient, stubborn, and defiant. Love them anyway. (more…)
After my unsuccessful run for Congress, I finally got around to recording a new Police Dynamics training video. I based this one on a post by Dan Weigold on his blog Coach With Heart. I’ve been following Coach Weigold’s blog for a few years and we have sometimes “chatted” about principles of ethical leadership. And his recent post on Authentic Leadership is so consistent with the principles of Police Dynamics and the SHIELD Program teachings on Reflective Leadership that I asked him for permission to use it in this training session.
Coach Weigold identifies six components of authentic leadership (the components are his and the commentary mine)…
1. Compelling vision (does it inspire others, creating meaning)
The ability to impart vision is a key leadership skill that is often overlooked. A carefully crafted vision and mission statement, founded on the core values of an organization, are essential for inspiring others and setting expectations. For those of you interested in building a culture of character within your agency, I suggest you take this vision-crafting process one step further by identifying 10 essential character qualities that you consider absolutely critical for success and include them in your policy or standards manual.
2. Employee input and participation (leaders need to listen) (more…)
I’ve posted insights from my former Chief of Staff, Barney Barnes, before (we had the running joke that every Sheriff needs a Barney…). In his retirement, he has taken up his passion for writing, including an awesome book (that I highly recommend) called Born to Be a Warrior.
This past Memorial Day, Barney penned the following piece on the Warrior Code that I thought would be particularly fitting for the Police Dynamics site because it incorporates so much of the character-based principles necessary to be a great leader.
The Warrior Code
“The warrior code takes a soldier and makes him a knight. It connects the natural life of a fighter to the supernatural understanding of the warrior calling. His duties are transformed into holy sacrifices; his sense of self is reformed into the image of the servant in pursuit of valor. He becomes part of a fellowship, a noble tradition that flows thru him and carries him beyond the mediocre and the vain.” – Steven Mansfield, The Faith of the American Soldier
I have worn a warrior suit, of one form or another, most of my adult life–first as a navy pilot, then state guardsman and law enforcement official. Now at age 66 I can say, without reservation, that Steven Mansfield has uncovered a great truth. In fact, the truth of his statement transcends historical and cultural divides.
A warrior code is necessary in our fallen world because of the presence of evil and the chaos and violence it produces. We become aware of this violence early on in the Genesis text. In chapter 4, we learn the details of a homicide in which Cain, in an outburst of anger, murders his brother Abel. This violence continues today often serving as the lead story on local, national, and international news reports from around the world. (more…)
Well, the race for Congress didn’t turn out the way I had hoped (I came in 8th out of 16 in the primary!). But at least it got me back home and available for a new opportunity. So, now that I’m back in the states, at least on the short-term, I’ve got two things going on. First, I am available for live Police Dynamics conferences. If you’re interested, please send me a message via the “Contact Me” button on the left of your screen.
But an even more important announcement is that the Police Dynamics Institute has partnered with the International Academy of Public Safety (IAPS) and brought me on-board as the VP of Law Enforcement Training and Development. IAPS, and its sister company Readiness Network, are fully integrated Technology and e-Learning companies. Their iLEARN, iCOMMAND, and iSHIELD portals create an ecosystem that acts as the connective tissue for command and control with comprehensive learning and development tools that enhances readiness at all levels. Dr. Mitch Javidi, founder and CEO of IAPS, contacted me about a year ago while I was still overseas about incorporating some of the Police Dynamics training videos into iSHIELD (SHeriff’s Institute for Ethical Leadership Development). Since then, we have planned to partner together whenever I got back home.
Here’s the introductory video from our series on Reflective Leadership which will be available soon. And we plan to have the entire Police Dynamics program online in the near future.
There is much more to talk about in regards to IAPS and iSHIELD but I will leave it at that for now. Please contact me if you would like to learn more or to schedule a demonstration of the system.
As crazy as it sounds, it’s true! And it’s the reason I haven’t posted any training videos for the last couple of weeks. I am curtailing my mission in Afghanistan and starting my journey home tomorrow (Jan 20). There is a perfect storm of an opportunity back home to run in a special election for the First Congressional District in SC. That’s the seat vacated by Tim Scott when he was appointed by Governor Nikki Haley to fill the unexpired term of Senator Jim DeMint. This short video explains some of my reasons for running and the principles that I will apply to governmental decisions should I be elected. Most of you know that I support the Founder’s view of a Constitutionally limited republic.
There are a few things that my faithful Police Dynamics followers can do to help. First of all, go to the Charleston GOP website and vote for me in the straw poll. Right now, I lead the pack after only being listed as a candidate for the last 48 hours or so. But a comfortable margin would send a strong message that I am a serious contender for this seat.
Secondly, go to my campaign page on FaceBook and “like” it. You can also follow all of the campaign happenings as they unfold. Former Governor Mark Sanford is in the race so it promises to be interesting to say the least.
And of course I can always use encouragement, support, and prayers. If you live in the First District, I also want your vote!
This will be an all-out sprint to the primary on March 19, then the runoff and special general election in the weeks afterward. So it is unlikely that I will be able to give much attention to the Police Dynamics site until after all of this is over.
Let’s send a Sheriff to Congress…!
Sheriff Ray Nash
Candidate for First Congressional District